I Canít Make Myself Study
Maybe you hate school, or maybe you merely hate homework. Even if
you find a way to make a living at your hobby, you will have tasks you
donít feel like doing. Here are a few suggestions.
Make a list of things you like to do
Maybe you like to shoot hoops, take a walk, or talk to your
friend on the phone. I like to read mystery stories. Also,
I like to watch certain TV shows. The important thing is that you
feel good when you do finish the things.
No one else has to understand why you enjoy taking a walk. Some
people will consider that boring. However, after a thirty minute
walk, I feel better. Who cares if someone else doesnít enjoy it.
Iím assuming youíre smart enough not to put destructive stuff on this
list. Some things that make us feel good lead to addictions, broken
relationships, and destructive behaviors. Put on the list things that make
you feel good and wonít hurt you or others.
Make sure you put some things on the list that donít take lots of time.
You can shoot hoops for ten minutes or limit a phone call. Going
to Europe to hang out takes more time. Itís OK to put that on the list,
but also put on some activities you can start and stop or do in a shorter
Promise yourself a reward
I wish I could create a world for you where you do only those
things you want to do when you feel like doing them. I canít even
create that kind of world for myself. I like my work, but certain
tasks turn me off. I hate routine paperwork, but a certain amount
of it appears necessary.
However, you can learn to take the yuck out of things you donít feel
like doing. You promise yourself a reward. Iíve been known
to bring a mystery novel to my desk on mornings when I donít want to do
paperwork. I promise myself that I will read two pages, work for
fifty minutes, and read three more pages.
Now I am focused on something that is fun. Of course I must watch
my time. One girl decided to paint T-shirts before she studied.
You know how that worked out. She didnít study. We had a heart-to-
heart about painting T-shirts as a reward for whipping through her homework
rather than avoiding her homework by painting T-shirts. Use a little
Consider it an essential skill
After practicing this a little, you will have developed the
skill of self-motivation. Instead of waiting for someone or something
to punch your button, you have taken control of your life. You can
now punch your own hot button.
(C) 2000, Don Mize
Also, you have learned one of the skills essential for success.
No matter how much you like your job in the future, there will be times
when you wonít feel like doing it.
Think about that homework you dreaded, or think about the time you put
off cleaning your room. Remember how it spoiled the whole day because
it lurked in the back of your mind. By promising yourself a reward,
you take charge, feel better immediately, do the task more quickly, and
feel better about yourself because you did it.
Doing things when they need to be done rather than when we feel like
doing them is one of the important secrets of successful living.
Give it a whirl and let me know how you come out.